Suddenly “got” this:
We have to find the inner Lover, the inner Home, and become secure there before we attempt to establish those experiences externally. The external is meant to be a reflection of what’s going on, what’s real, inside. We err when we focus only on the external situations and see those things as the primary goal — the “answer” — to our questions, loneliness, etc. Those things will always be imperfect in some ways, so we can only bear them when our internal world is complete/whole and perfect for us (which is something only we can decide). Otherwise, we keep running and seeking externally, never understanding that what we seek exists inside.
Explore your inner world.